I've noticed a startling insight regarding the type of AFCs that come into pickup.

Before I say this, let's say, that there are 2 types of AFCs that come into the community:

-The Clueless (CAFC)
-The Unfortunate (UAFC)

The clueless AFCs are the guys who should have no problem understanding pick up, since all they were in life were lost sheep. These guys consist of the guys who dont know how they got laid in the first place, guys who've had relationships out of luck, and guys who seemed to not know why women acted the way they did.

The Unfortunate AFCs are the guys who suffered in life, usually in the forum of bullying and traumatization. These guys have the same learning speed as the clueless, but have much more to work for. It's not that it's meant to be unfair, but most guys who are UAFCs have been wronged by most AMOGs and life circumstances. UAFCs include bullied people, the poor, the struggling, the hard-workers who feel they're not appreciated, and those who find it hard to suffer.

I, myself, was a UAFC, who became a PUA through a maddening, yet growth-filled time of trials, fun, discovery, and sadness.

This article is for the UAFCs here. If you are a CAFC, there should be no excuse for Pick up not to work for you immediately, unless your lazy.

Now, to the point:

UAFCs, it took me time to find out what you need to emphasize on more than the CAFCs. And here it is:

"Present perfect affirmations".

Guys, I'm telling you, affirmations are what makes the difference between the loser and the winner.

I know most of you believe that regular affirmations are bullshit (I am the man, I am the alpha male of the group, etc...).

They work...with a catch.

It is true that, at the moment, you might not be king Alpha, or the best thing in the universe.

Let's be honest: We're not. There is ALWAYS someone greater than us.

BUT, one thing that we can agree on is that we ARE BECOMING alpha males and the best things in the universe.

!!!

ARE BECOMING = Present Perfect tense!

You can belive that you are becoming an Alpha male, because everything takes time.

You're unconscious isn't stupid. It can tell when your bullshitting and being honest.

But, it cant tell the future. Therefore, by saying that you are becoming greater and mightier, you are programming your Subconscious more effectively than just "Oh yea I am king of the alpha male...Wait, this is BS."

Get my drift.

Here's some you can use now:

"I am becoming more confident and alpha"
"I am growing more aware and tactful"
"I am feeling happier and stronger!"
"I am confident in my dick size"

etc etc...

CAFCs must use this technique as well, but it is 1000000x more urgent for the UAFCs, as without it, pessimism takes over.

hope this helped.

(This is still in theorem, but with work, we can have something new in seduction)

ALSO NOTE, MOSTLY TO WOMEN: The following might sound sexist, but I am in no way an actual sexist. This is how the world works, and has been working. I'm setting the record straight, and there's a valuable lesson for guys to learn here regarding pick up.

Women are emotional. That is a fact of life.

They will always do crazy shit that doesn't make sense. They will drive you crazy with nonsensical bullshit against their own will. They will have their moods, bitch about what doesn't go their way, and test you more than a Med student trying to get his license.

...Is this a bad thing?

Not really.

It's more annoying than bad, just like when women cant understand why men are so focused on the outcome, getting things done immediately, not being emotional, being too animalistic, and continue watching and discussing sports.

We're who we are, and they're who they are.

Of course, there is a problem among this issue:

-How we're trained to cope with these differences-.

Women use men as boy-toys, having them buy stuff, kiss their asses, and act as total slaves, and it's never reciprocated.

There's 2 sides to this predicament:

-The girl's a bitch.
-The guy's a pussy.

Depending on the situation, it can be one or the other.

Most of the time, the guy's a pussy.

Why?

Because women are better prepared by society:

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Women talk. That's where their social strength comes from.

Men are indepenent most of the time. We have to be. We've been hunters since the beginning of time.

...but, it's changing.

WOMEN are becoming hunters, and men are becoming subservient.

And, I hate to say this, but I support women who prove to be manlier than most men. (Not physically, but professionally andaggressively).

At the same time, I choose to bust my ass to help most men grow a pair and learn how the REAL WORLD works, in a PUA light.

And now, my subject: Emotional Management.

Women use men's weakness for sex to get what they want.

Why cant men use women's weakness for emotional validation to that same advantage?

I will teach you how to do it:

1)Women will have sex with any guy they think has EVEN A MINIMAL amount of game. The only exception to EVERY case is when the woman ISN'T in ANY emotional state.

2)If a woman is horny, she will fuck. If she is angry, she will fuck. If she is sad, she will fuck. Happy, annoyed, nervous, scared, excited.

AS LONG as she's feeling SOMETHING, SHE WILL FUCK!

3)This is only applicable after attraction (Duh.)

4)There is a "ballsy" aspect to this. You must be able to be controlled enough to handle women's emotional outburst, and be brave enough to get her there.

Why do assholes get laid? They make her feel emotions, mostly anger and irritation, but they still fuck him.

Why do sweet talkers get laid. They make her feel sexy and aroused.

Why do nice guys NOT get laid? THEY'RE FUCKING PUSSIES, AND FEAR INTERACTION WITH WOMEN ON A EMOTIONAL LEVEL, WHICH IS THE ONLY TYPE OF SEXUAL INTERACTION YOU CAN HAVE WITH THEM.

...anything else is LJBF.

So, this basic principle (Which only few guys know, sadly), will change your game 100x:

Manage women's emotions.

Whatever situation your in, ride along with their emotions. If you guys are in a club, make it exciting. If you're in the lounge, pull out the Don Juan styles. If you two are arguing, caveman into passionate sex. If she's sad, use the power of the rebound.

This requires a good sense of improptu skills, balls, and emotional intelligence. You need to know MINIMALLY what is going on with women in a specific situation, and change everything around emotionally, so that she'll be so jarred the ASDs will never come up.

Manage emotions. Remember fellas, you have control.

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This is a J-curve.

Although it isn't an actual J, it's shaped like one?

What is the purpose of the J-Curve?

Simple:

  -It's the perfect diagram for the Pick up learning process.

Ok, behold the ASCII Letter J:

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= JJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJ ----*4 =
=~~~~~~JJ ~~~~~~~~~~=
=~~~~~~JJ ~~~~~~~~~~=
=~~~~~~JJ -----*3~~~~~~=
=~~~~~~JJ~~~~~~~~~~ =
=~JJ---*1~JJ~~~~~~~~~~ =
=~JJ~~~~JJ~~~~~~~~~~ =
=~JJ~~~~JJ~~~~~~~~~~ =
=~~JJJJJJJ----*2~~~~~~~~ =
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Those 4 numbers represent the areas in which a PUA goes through.

1)Start/Freefall: This is where most new PUAs begin. This is where they see the actions, hear of the terms, and begin to learn the basics. At first, it's a fun time,
and you get to see some reactions and such, but as you learn more, stuff becomes harder. A majority of PUAs (85%) fall under this category.You notice your technique isn't up to par, and that you need to learn more stuff. Soon enough, you'll reach...

2)Pain Period/Shitland: This is the sucky part of Pick up progression. This is when you seem to think nothing works, and that you are plateauing. You keep banging your head against the wall, and are frustrated at your lack of progress. Girls dont seem to be receptive to your DHVs and Negs, you're inner game is shaken up, everything the PUGs say piss you off, and you're questioning your sanity. Unfortunately, this is the longest lasting phase of pick up, and where progress is made with action. Fortunately, this happens to EVERYONE! This is how you learn. With enough time, you experience that epiphany, and HOPEFULLY move onto:

3)Upward change in game/Skyrocketing: Suddenly, out of nowhere, you feel different, women notice, and suddenly, things are changing. You have more women to talk to, people are respecting you, and you're feeling like God. This is the 3rd stage, and only few PUAs get here (Mostly the ones who care and bust their asses). You can actually take a rest, and still move up, but why rest? You can go out, and attract WAY more women than before. It's like an express elevator to Pussy Paradise! Now 4:

4)Breaking the 4th wall/Breaking the 4th wall: That's all it is. You've broken the 4th wall of male/female interaction. You are a FREAKIN Player! Notice that the top of the J looks like ground, and when you've got to that 4th stage, you break PAST the ground, and become the kingpin, like a bat out of hell. Only few have reached this point.

...A guideline. Hope it helps.

This is fundamentally true, and with the recent talk behind Mystery's VH1 show, and using Tucker Max as an example and role model for real game, I've realized this important bit:

Mystery Method, Juggler Method, DYD, etc...

Useless.

...without solid confidence built from the ground up.

I'm serious.

Most people entering the game think that by using endless openers, DHVs, negs, and the works, the girl will swoon.

Not the case.

I have 4 natural alpha males that have inspired me in my life:

-My Brother
-My best friend since Freshman year of High school
-Tucker Max
-A guy from my high school, who I will refer to as "Molinaro"

These 4 guys had 3 common factors in common:
-Natural, radiant confidence
-A "Dont give a fuck" attitude
-Charisma and friendliness

I've looked back on the methods and techniques on the books I read, and realized something:

They arent necessary.

Although honestly, the books have helped me realize the truth on social interaction and how the world works, many have taken those books to be dogma.

It clearly states in every book, more prominently in DeAngelo's, that the material in the books is solely opinion, and not to be taken as complete fact.

The same applies for the creation story in the book of Genesis, or how the dinosaurs died.

It cant be taken 100% literally, but there is the 100% fact that the underlying principles are present.

Those underlying principles include:
-Confidence
-Social proof
-How the world works on results, and not intention
-What people respond to (Men and women)

Many take up the call of pick up, and think that, by using the techniques and methods, they will get every single girl and become a king of kings...

WRONG!

I know for a fact that my bro never used no technique or neg or DHV. He just did it.

He told me that "Any moron can talk to a girl. Takes a man to attract her"

It's true.

My friend from Freshman year is a pure stereotypical Casanova-type. He has a bevy of women around all Northern Jersey, and is only 18, like me.

He says the same thing my bro says, and says confidence is key.

We all know Tucker Max a.k.a Leading Alpha Male of the world.

Read his book "I hope they serve beer in hell". Although extremely hilarious and amazing, he's truthful about how the world works, and demonstrates how one should think and act in social situations (not IMITATE, but be like. No one can imitate Tucker Max.)

And for the last guy, Molinaro.

Let's just say, unofficial king of my High School.

The dude oozes alpha maledom.

Captain of the wrestling team, women jumping on him, and a hard worker.

He helped me realize what being an alpha male was, and seriously, one day wouldn't go by where a girl would run up just to talk to him and hug him, and maybe later fuck him.

Again, he says "confidence"

What is my point?

CONFIDENCE MUST BE ESTABLISHED AND MUST FEEL NATURAL, OR NOTHING WILL WORK!

Notice how many PUAs, who have all the skills down, fail at crunch time?

Why?

They base their validaton on what others think of them, and confidence cant be nurtured and maintained when it is based on other people's approval.

The naturals I knew, DID NOT GIVE A FUCK!

They went in, and got out with a number, or even more if lucky.

They have rock-solid confidence, built from the ground up.

Also, all of them, despite being so called "gods" of the game...

I am being honest with you.

I saw 2 of them at their worst (My bro and my friend from Frosh year.). They were beaten, badly. I'd put all my money on the fact that Tucker and Molinaro suffered the same.

I wont go into detail, but my bro and friend went through some tough shit. They hated life at one point, and wish they could just live as hermits.

It happens to everyone.

What made them different, however, is how they treated the situation.

They stood up, where many would fall down and whimper like a whiny dog, and you know what happens to whiny dogs...

They get retired, if you know what I mean.

Tucker, in his books, and on his message board, has emphasized that he has failed countless times. He said "fuck it" and kept going. Look where he is today.

My friend Molinaro lost the first round in counties, to a dude from some excellent school down south. At other times, he would be beaten. His record was 8 and 4, but he had his losses. Instead of bitching, he was silent, and worked harder next practice.

These guys never quit. They never complained. They just got back up, and tried again.

And again, and again, and again, and again...

Never stopping, just plowing, and taking the opportunities when they come.

For those reading, know that confidence is the key, and with confidence comes development of personality. When you have personality, people flock to you, and you gain social proof. When you gain social proof, women notice, and want to talk to you. When women talk to you, other women want to come, and get to know you. When women get to know you, you become the prize, and stand out.

THAT, my friends, is when you can say even the corniest AFC line, and still get the women.

I'm sure everyone has heard of "You can talk the talk,but can you walk the walk?"

Some people out in the world like to pretend that they know everything about a certain subject,yet,when it comes time to apply the knowledge and skills related to the subject,people back out.

In pick up,usually,a potential PUA may have studied everything about gaming,from Cocky-Funny,to openers,to DHVs,Storytelling,Kino,Cat-String,the whole works...

unfortunately,most of the time,when the situation calls for it,people fail to act,and revert back to AFC attitude.

Once failure is reached,many potential PUAs will revert into the evil "Spiral of destruction"(Constant feelings of depression,anger,and confusion that persists until sucess is gained again).

Unfortunately,there are few ways to cure that,one of the most effective being to just go back out and keep persistent until you score.

Another unfortunate fact is that most people arent willing to do that,either because of fear,laziness,or most likely,having no knowledge of sucess.

Shortly after my senior prom(Which I didn't go to,thanks to wonderful High School rep as the creepo back in my AFC days),I had realize something about learning things,and something my Tae Kwon Do instructor back in 8th grade had told my class one time:

There are 4 steps to go through before you can say that you understand and feel something,whether it be Tae Kwon Do itself,or anything in life.Those 4 Steps are:

Knowledge-Essence-Action-Mastery

1)Knowledge-To master something,you must first become aware of it.Study,observe,and form your personal conclusions on you're observations.In Pick up,that means learn from the books and advice,see it work in action,and then,in you're heart,choose what works best for you.Once you know you're material(Which a majority of potential PUAs do),you must then identify with it:

2)Essence-Knowledge is useless unless,deep inside,you agree with the knowledge.An example of this is religion.Both Jesus Christ and Siddhartha Gautama were both considered to be founders of a religion(Catholicism and Buddhisim respectively),yet Buddhists belive Buddah is the one true God,and Christians believe that Jesus,although being the Son of God,is considered to be the central figure of worship.In Pick-Up,a PUA has the CHOICE to acknowledge whether the techniques work or not.Even though,according to human nature,they do work,many will disagree.Point is,if you do not truly believe that the knowledge you gathered is correct,then find something you believe is correct.

To further clarify,because there is no right or wrong religion(even atheism,which,ironically,is a belief in itself),there is no right or wrong technique.Whatever resonates with you,use it.

NOW,this is where most people,including myself,fail.I have been working on the "action" aspect for a while,but this is,not only the toughest phase of the mastery process,but also the measure used to separate true PUAs from aspiring ones:

3)Action:Knowing and feeling is still,not enough.After getting both those fundamentals down,you must ACT on them.This is where most choke,and this is where actual progress is made.A student of martial arts can memorize all the moves and develop the discipline to go with those moves,but without practice,action,and consistent work,the fundamentals built will be placed into doubt,and then the questioning of "Does it really work?" comes in.Everything works,to an extent.BUT,without action,everything FAILS.You might know about inner game and confidence,but without acting on it.It will NOT WORK.You might be able to throw a mean sidearm in football,or have quick knee slide ability in wrestling,but without working and acting on those,IT WILL NOT WORK.

Without action,even if you KNOW what you're doing,NOTHING WILL WORK.

Again,

NO ACTION,NO WORK.

You miss 100% of the shots you never take.It's,unfortunately,the way the world works.

Before I conclude:

4)Mastery:By knowing,feeling,and acting,you will GAIN.

Mastery means:Sex with many beautiful HB8-10s,Respect from peers,life of adventure and wonder,Happiness,and a sense of accomplishment in life.

In short:PUA progression is like a car setup

You-Car
Knowing and Feeling-The Engine(How else is the car going to move?)
Acting-The Key(How else are you going to start the engine?)
Mastery-Realizing the car you're driving's a Bugatti Veyron,with a HB10 in the driver's seat,heading to a club you're a VIP in.

I,and most likely many of you,wish that the game could be as easy as "Hey.What's up.Blah Blah Blah.Let's get out of here".

Unfortunately,like most of life's wonderful processes,that's not how it works.

This is my attempt to clear the issue of "Why doesn't pick-up work?"

Thank you for reading.Happy hunting!

Just a reminder.

If you have a REALLY negative attitude towards women(they are evil bitches/Dont care about men/etc...),dont take this the wrong way,but do the majority of people a favor and stay out of pick up until you take care of that aspect of yourselves.

In most of the Pick Up Books(Mostly David DeAngelo's),he makes a point saying that if you are constantly negative,depressed to the point of violence,or hateful towards women,that you(as in general)return the material,get a refund,and save both you and DeAngelo wasted time.

If you have a negative attitude towards women,NOTHING HERE WILL EVER WORK.

In fact,EVEN SAYING HI WONT WORK,cause women can tell when you are very hateful.

This is going to sound blunt,but It must be said:

IF YOU WANT TO BECOME A PUA,AND LEARN HOW TO SEDUCE WOMEN,GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEAD THAT NO ONE WILL CARE HOW MUCH YOUR HURT BY WOMEN,OR THAT YOU FEEL HATE TOWARDS THEM,AND THAT,ULTIMATELY,THE ONLY ONE WHO WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE IS YOURSELF.YOU MUST OVERCOME YOUR NEGATIVITY AND HATE,AND BE ABLE TO ACCEPT THAT WOMEN WILL ALWAYS BE WOMEN,AND THAT THAT'S THE WAY IT HAS,AND ALWAYS WILL BE.

(Of course,to those who apply.)

If this post applies to you,you need to do the following:

-Realize that there is more to life than women
-Realize that you have more power than you think,and that you do have a chance
-WORK 24/7,UNRELENTLESSLY,on your inner game.
-Find an outlet for your anger.
-Find a higher calling
-Accept the fact that some things in life CANNOT be changed,and that you must accept,and master them.

And the most important lesson of all:

LEARN TO LOVE...YOURSELF,as you cannot show love to others unless you can show it to...YOURSELF.

Hopefully that will not be the case on PUA Lifestyle, and that everyone here will not bash women irresponsibly.

Thank you.