While writing a new thread on general tips and tricks I came to the thought of why I don’t get blown out of sets (when im deep into a set and not just opening) late on in the game. I used to get blown out a lot and now not so much just from experience. And I think I know why now. I think Ill call it equilibrium theory. It wasn’t just that I had better knowledge and congruency or any other part of the game.

A good 60% of my success comes from this.What is equilibrium theory?I run by the school of thought that dictates that certain parts in pick up require a balance or some parts need one thing and then another before the next stage can be achieved. The most obvious example of this is that attraction of man to woman and woman to man must be established before moving on to comfort and trust building. So when you learn this of course typical of me I learnt on how to bend it and make it work for me to help me when I catch myself making a mistake in set and therefore making this the best tool I have in my arsenal for CALIBRATION.The idea here is that you just look at what you know now about game (theories), and see how many of these things have an opposite or equal partner. Ill give more examples later in this post:-IOI’s need to be IOIed back-SOI’s require a certain level of comfort to allow that sort of sexual tension.-IOD’s need to be IOD’ed back-Kino needs to be timed well and need a certain level of intimacy.-Words (trust and comfort building convo e.g. Cube, question games, just general intimate chit chat.) needs to be paired with kino.-Negs need to be carried off with some sort of cock/funny or followed eventually with a compliment.And just about everything that makes the set escalate to the next level, because that’s where most people are going to mess up. The TIMING.There is no way to learn when the ‘right’ time for something is because each woman is different. So what you need to learn instead is how to calibrate quickly and well for each thing. This is ESENCIAL tool in being a ‘Natural’ gamer.Just think about when you make a decision in set. Do you still run by the rule of when you get 3 IOI’s do you move onto building kino? No that’s just a technical rule to help you learn to calibrate. You should just know, you feel the vibe or you don’t even wait for the IOI’s. But what if you initiate kino and it is rejected? How do you recover to keep the set from being awkward? Some people push and plow, that’s good you get the close but it doesn’t make for a good solid sarge. Instead what you should be doing is calibrating it and making up for the mistake you made with initiating kino by expanding her comfort zone with you by talking more. Or you could do a take away to reset it; you showed too much interest, so you show disinterest to recover, you dig?So what aspects of game should I apply equilibrium theory too?Every part. The great thing in pick up I find is that almost every mistake I make in set can be countered with something else. Say I neg too hard, I then compliment her on something else:”Damn those shoes are totally wack, bitch!”“Omg im so offended blah blah”” Wait…hold on! Let me finish! I like them! Girls who can wear crazy shit like that go up a notch in my book.”Crisis resolved!Or I build kino too fast (you can tell if she resists the next stage of escalation) and so I take a step back and slow down the kino maybe move a few steps back and up the amount of comfort building TALK to counter it.Or lets say my SOI is too blunt or she doesn’t like the idea. The problem here isn’t the SOI but most likely the timing for it was wrong because I was not at the stage where she would be comfortable hearing that. So I compensate with the opposite, letting us spend more time together and more rapport building as well as upping the sexual tension.Most of you at pualifestyle are now at the point where you can identify where you went wrong when you write yourself a field report or better yet in action. But how many of you consciously calibrate like this? If you’ve been doing this unconsciously, congratulations! But now you are aware of it, incorporate it into your game and see yourself recover from mistakes that you would usually get blown out by.Its important though that your target or the set does not know your doing this, making this obvious reveals that your seeking validation from them or you can come off as a needy bitch boy who is scared to insult them. You need to learn to know when and when not to calibrate like this. And that lesson (as far as I know) can only be taught through experience. So if you neg and she is offended badly and you compliment her obviously, she’s going to think you cave into every little tantrum she has, and you’ll end up going home to spend quality time with youporn. So remember to work on learning when and when not to use this.Methods and theories like this one are best applied when you have a strong overall knowledge of game. The more you know the more you can easily identify what happened and what to do to counter it, instead of sitting down and writing out a canned response to counter a mistake. But if that’s how you roll go ahead, it’s a personal choice in my opinion. However how can you know what mistakes you will make in set unless they are a SP? So as always, comments, questions and general bashing of my theory is encouraged! Hope this was useful.Alright peace my friends,Chikito