(Girl responses needed) Post-Coital Power Shifting?...
Jul. 31, 2008 5:34 PM - [ post comment ]
The title sounds more exciting than the articale actually is. But the article is still interesting nevertheless because it is something I haven't really heard anyone bring up
I noticed with a few girls, who I would consider to be my friends and who i have had sex with, will adopt this interesting attitude after I have sex with them for the first time. In this state begin to hit me with comments that are much more acrid than negs. It is as if they would like to tear me down from some superioir position I may be at. When I sense the acrid comment, I usually pretend I didn't hear it or just smile and move on...something to show that the comment didn't hurt because I know they are doing it on purpose. It doesn't hurt me, it makes me feel sorry for them because it sounds like the comments are coming from a desperate place in their being.
Because they are my friends, after having sex with them I'd immediately call them later in the day just to check up on them. One girl even discussed, right before sex, that it "better not get all awkward between us". And it hasn't. I still talk to these girls, I still hang out with them. I haven't had sex more than once with them. These particular girls I have only had sex with once are the only ones that have adopted the somewhat acidic attitude.
On the other hand, there is a group of girl friends that I have who, after having sex with multiple times, still talk to me a lot, hang out with me, and are nice to me. They're attitude hasn't changed. In fact, I'd say we are closer now after having sex.
But my focus is on the first group of girls. Have any of you experienced this? It seems as though the girls feel like they have lost some kind of power having sex with me and need to use acid remarks to cut my man-ego down. That could just be my ego talking though. I see what is going on, and it doesn't hurt me, but I want to know what to do about it so my gril friends can be my girl FRIENDS again.
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