40 Days and 40 Nights Part 2
May. 15, 2008 1:57 PM - [ post comment ] Greetings and Salutations! Wow, it's been awhile.. How are you doing? You guys been keeping up with my tips and advice? I hope so, because I know it works and it will work for you if you take it all in and just try to apply it in your life.
Now of course Lent is over, but that does not mean that my time in "exile" is done. I have started learning more and more about the man I am and gaining an idea of the man I am to become. I have realized all the reasons for my pains and I have been searching for the cure to completely heal me. Once I am free of this barrier, I know that the healing will be so much smoother. I am not at all implying that everything will be all buttery sweet, but instead that I can finally start working at some of my main issues socially that have crippled me for so many years.
My time in "exile" has made me more mature, but believe me, once out of college.. I will go into a real "exile" sometime in my life. As a matter of fact, my second cousin had his own kind of time in "exile" where he traveled the country with little to no money and went to such states as the Dakotas, Wyoming, Kentucky, New Mexico. I maybe completely wrong with the states, but the point is that he was able to do what most people were afraid to do, live completely independently on his own. I never knew him well before, but you know that for as long that he was living out there for months and years that it changed him. Gave him a new look on his life and his destiny and gave him greater fulfillment in finding out what he truly loves in life. I bet some turned there heads the other way and probably said negative things about him doing that, but I can and will promise you that he is more of a human then most of us will ever be.
In order to truly be in exile, we must create a goal, go out and just live without the goal in mind, live completely independent with no "homely pleasures" (such as: cell phones, watches, money, tech equipment, etc.) . You cannot bring home with you, you must first find the home in yourself, before anything else. It takes a lot to have the balls to go out and just leave the normalcy of his life and truly experience life as it was meant to. I dream of that day.. I will not follow his trail, but instead my own, go to places far away I was always interested in, and experience myself.
Now what does this have to do with pickup? The greatest problem of every single pickup guru, artist, EVERYONE is that none of them have truly searched into who they were. They only searched for there problems relating to social skills and then applied some techniques and mind-frames to them and then viola! This is not to say that every one has, but I promise you so many do not know themselves, only what they want to be. As I have said, "You cannot bring home with you, you must first find the home in yourself, before anything else." This can be applied to pickup very simply. You cannot just add a great technique to your external core (the 2nd layer of the personality) and then just expect that you will just come along. Let me reword that, when you change yourself "for the better", you cannot expect that you will be able to find the "You" in this new personality, new self. You have to truly experience and know who "you" are before you can do anything else pertaining to additions to your external core. It's like trying to match a paint color on a wall with another jug you bought blindly. Unless you know the color of the wall and are able to identify the color, you will not get a perfect match with the two paint jugs. You may get close, but not a perfect match.
Now, from what I have read and heard about our good ol' legendary buddy Mystery, he himself went into a form of a personal exile. Mystery could not know how to change himself unless he searched for and defined himself and then studied everything he could and then went from there to becoming the legendary man we see before us. What makes him so great? Was it that he was just so great with women? Nope. Was it that he has a best selling book, DVDs, audios of him teaching you what he did? Nope. Was it that he is the host of a #1 rated VH1 show, The Pickup Artist or he was a main character and focus in The Game the #1 New York Times Best Seller? Nope. The reason he is so great is because he has done something that few and far have ever done.. .. Listen to me very carefully.... He perfected HIMSELF! Now try to understand what I am saying here, he is not a perfect man, perfection is only a goal and something based on personal opinions. I believe that perfection exists in no man or woman, unless you define perfection in a different way. What I am saying is that he did not perfect his "game", but instead himself and how he perceives "game". Mystery made something his own, like a child. So not only does he have great knowledge and passion for his "child", he also found himself and created himself anew, reborn, went into the core of who he was (which can only be done once finding you the man or woman you truly are) and then flavoring it with all of these mind frames and techniques. He did not just add them, he made them himself.
On Conan O'Brien, he mentioned how different he was and how long it took for him to change. This process does not happen in a week or two months, it had to have taken him years and years and probably cost him a lot of money. I cannot directly compare my cousin with Mystery, but only in the idea that they both found themselves in completely different manners. My cousin experienced nature, searching for nothing more then probably a purpose and direction in life. Mystery experienced social change, searching for nothing more then his own greater happiness and fulfillment with a re-creation of himself. Happiness is the key, but the lock is too large for the key. People always work for happiness (sadly, some cannot and/or do not), but instead miss the goal and instead create something else out of it all.
You cannot expect success, it only involves working hard and letting it come to you. Both of these fine men have found success in different ways that we find success. Success, to many, is the ability to have great sums of money, sex, power, and every urge and desire given to you. Success, to the few, is the ability to find oneself in oneself and live by his own will. To the many, I challenge you to think and become like the few. The few find fulfillment and happiness while the many find stress, depression, spiritual death. The many constantly focus on success while the few do not think of success, but yet it always comes to the few. The many, on the other hand, find different forms of success that they may not see fit and ignore and destroy themselves in doing so.
You do not have to go out into the woods for 5 years in order to experience the benefits of "exile". My whole entire point of all of this is that like Mystery you have to find out who you are before any change can take place. You can experience the literal "exile" as my second cousin did, or you can experience the internal "exile" as Mystery has. This is your choice and decision I ask you to make if you are truly serious about you and fulfilling your goals. I wish you the best of luck for all your days..
I have decided that I do not need an avatar in order to become anything special. An avatar only separates who I am from who I want to be, my goal is to make them one in the same, which cannot be done with an "avatar". I am Andrew Leamon, but you can call me "aleams".....
By the way, today was my last day of school so YAY!!! My Stylelife Challenge starts soon.. I plan on doing the no-masterbation rule during this time..
Keep it classy and always remember to "keep your stick on the ice"...
"aleams"... lol
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