I'm starting again. Once I get back in school for the fall, it's all going to begin. I'm going to do it. The last time I went out even for just three weeks or so five times a week, it was CRAZY the kind of results I was getting, mainly in Inner Game, actually, but some outer as well...

It's just all about the Action. It's All about the action. And right now I am quitting saying that "One Day" I'll be good at this shit. I'll be good at this shit now. Why? Because I'm deciding that life is too short and too hard not to do what you want to do. ...haha! I hope this is what I really want to do.

But for now, this is what I'll do. This is my life. It's now or never. And no one's gonna live forever. I'm just gonna live while I'm alive....

Damn that's powerful.

If that's not a good reason to get up in the morning then I don't know what is.

My body is my slave, and it does what I want it to.

BAM!

So I haven't done as much in the past month/month and a half, but I'm going to start doing it again more often. I was able to notice a significant difference in my skills after only a couple weeks of going out 5 times a week doing just 5 approaches. I've actually started up again recently, doing about 4 or 5 approaches a few times a week, randomly, and I'm having as great time as ever. This is not to say that my approaches are perfect or even good, but I'm learning nonetheless. Actually, I'm not really looking for results anyways... which maybe I should a little more, as far as having a goal (e.g. fucking her), but I definitely do have the goal. It's more of not being overly concerned with my results and instead focusing on simply the ACT of approaching and escalating until I pull or get blown out... (which I should be more consisitent on. It's so easy to bale out after an initial good reaction, God!) Ok, note to self right here right now: no more baling out. If I can't take it farther right there, I'll at least go for the number close. Basically, I'll go as far as I can before I close or get blown out.

A couple quick things:
-Girls that are shyer, LOVE it when you tell them that they're adorable. This might be a common thing, but it definitely has to be done AFTER initial attraction. Ok, like, if she's blushing and you've only said a couple sentences (and she really is cute, ok... that's important...) I just might let her know that I think she's absolutely adorable.
-Day game approach: if she's farther away, make sure you qualify her before you go in closer to her. Either that or she qualifies herself... introducing yourself works well here as a way to get closer if you've started off too far away. I'm still learning about distance here... how far away to stand, how close I can get how soon. Basically, I'm willing to really screw this up and just try out TONS of different stuff, so I can see what works best.
-Probably the most important step you can take to learning this game is to be willing to screw up. And be willing to screw up A LOT. Just accepting that almost NO ONE is good at this (and the ones who are make big bucks from teaching it), so it's all right to allow yourself to make mistakes. There's no such thing as a perfect approach anyways... There's never a PERFECT moment. You make the moment perfect yourself. You're in control. I'm in control. I'm the man. She's lucky I came over to talk to her. Why? Because I'm a dedicated, passionate, ambitious man who is willing to mess up and make mistakes in order to learn how to be the best. And I will be the best. No matter what it takes. What? She doesn't want the best? Ok. Next.
-Main thing I want to focus on is how far away I'm standing, moving up closer... I think this is going to be HUGE once I get it handled. But right now it's something I'm not completely comfortable with, so what does that mean? I'm going to figure it out by doing it a lot and becoming comfortable with it.

Guys, most pick up artists will try and sell you on their stuff, which is cool, and I've benefited a freaking TON from their info, but a lot of these guys don't stress enough how important it is to just get the fuck off the sofa, off the computer chair, off the bed, whatever it is, and just fucking go for it. Just do whatever the fuck it takes until you're the fucking man you've always wanted to be and known that you can be. I'm doing it now. I started off at a HORRIBLE starting point. I thought I was ugly even... really, I was just so nice and shy and didn't know how to stand up for what I believed in (e.g. myself)... but like anything else in life, it just takes practice. And if you want to get good, it takes a LOT of practice.

So, as one of my most respected Gurus says:

Get out there and meet some women.

That's what I'm doing.

5 a fucking day.

Are you part of the 5 a day program?

A Fuck a day keeps the doctor away. ...as long as you use a glove.

Ok. That sucks! I had just typed a big paragraph and then my computer fucked up and my paragraph is in hell now.

Anyways, I'm tired, so quick summary of some weird shit that happened tonight:

2 set HB and UG where the HB said no to my opener/question and the UG said yes, and so weird, I told the UG, who was already REALLY reacting to me just from the opener that I DIDN'T agree. Then the UG starts to try to convince me of her position on the thing... but all this crap is disguised as just a vibe... sort of. I don't know. I don't know why I didn't agree with the UG. My thoughts are that either this came from a place of insecurity (wanting to agree with the HB) or... POSSIBLY, but I'm not sure, it could have been an unconscious attraction mechanism. Then again, I'm pretty much convinced that I was just agreeing with the HB and just showing the UG her place... lol.

Here's what should have gone down:

I agree with the UG, and we form a secret aliance because she's "nice" but her friend is the "bad" one. ...this way, I'm getting the UG friend to like me, while getting attraction from the HB. I *still* forget sometimes that this game is so completely "illogical." Oh, well, I'm glad I approached that set.

LOL, I'm glad I approach EVERY set I do. Even if I get blown out and my cheeks are red and I feel like people are watching me and looking at me like a loser. Hahaha! Listen: every set that I open is taking another step towards being a fucking rockstar at this crap.

Most guys never open. Or they do it in a chode-like way... (they see another guy open, so they go up and act like his friend or some other bullshit like that).

I went to the mall for my 5 this afternoon. It's different than the beach. A little harder I think. But really, it's just different.

So cool thing to remember from my first 5 sets this afternoon:

-first few minutes: tease, tease, tease, c and f/playful.

Hey, quick thought: Why don't I ever see any other guys buying condoms? Am I the only one who gets them in the store... and everyone else is getting them off the net or something? This is weird.

Today I did thumbwar TWICE! (Yes, two different sets, of course). I'm seeing a pattern where progression mostly depends on MY willingness to progress, and if I'm willing to just take that "risk." Because, of course, I could be blown out... but then again, if I don't progress, I'll get blown out anyways, right? Haha! God, I love this game! I really mean that. It's so fucking exciting.

Couple "theoretical" lessons from today:

-If I'm in the middle of a story/sentence and she asks a question, I've gotten MUCH better results by aknowledging that she asked the question, but making her wait until the end of MY sentence/story and going back and asking what she was saying. Guys, this is crucial! You let her interrupt, especially in the first few minutes... (I usually don't talk with them longer than 5 or so, but I got to at least 10 minutes today! )...then she knows that you value what she's saying more than what you're saying, which is a DLV. The goal is to DHV!

-When she's trying to qualify me with a question like, how old are you, etc. It seems to be working to just ask them first, and then tell them my age. Even for names I will usually do this... I think it's a good principle to have in your toolbox, instead of just trying to always have a funny answer and dodge the questions

-I'm getting excellent responses with, "Do you guys believe in Harry Potter?" This, in my mind, is a perfect opener.

-If they're not already asking about me after the first opener, I get great responses by just finding something simple to compliment them on (other than they're rack... even though I might try this sometime... Ok, maybe in a few more weeks, haha) and then ask a question about them. This way, it feels as if they deserve the extra attention. Meanwhile, what's happening is I'm still maintaining composure, keeping the conversation interesting and flowing, and thereby distinguishing myself from probably already 80% of most guys and generating some good, solid attraction.

-Busting on them is really simple! I've already known about this technique from years ago from David D (C&F), so I've got this down pretty well, and it seems natural when I do it. Basically, I just don't need to worry about it, and it comes.

Now. To identify some sticking points:

-Still getting used to using KINO. I used to hardly EVER use it (that's probably why I'm still a virgin --keep that a secret--. But I just need to practice this a TON. I've got to develop some good calibration on this. Basically, just use it at different points of the conversation... and maybe think of a couple more things than just thumb war. I lost a thumbwar today. That wasn't cool. At all... Then again, maybe it's good for my ego. My goal is for my ego to DIE!

-Still a little shaky with locking in, but improving. I locked in in three sets today, including my first, which was cool because usually my first is kind of the throw-away as I'm still more nervous. It's amazing how only 4 days of doing this is already helping me so much. Work on this.

-Last thing is that, I feel like I'm losing momentum sometimes, and don't know what to do about it, or why I get that feeling. I think it has to do with going in my head... and simple practice of being out of my head. I especially noticed this on my first set. I came in with a smile, great body language and stillness, but towards the end, I felt...aha! Maybe I was simply not escalating when I should have been. I know this will go away with practice.

Quick summary of sticking points:

-KINO
-Locking in (remember, must be done in under three minutes)
-Staying out of my head

Last thought is just to always remember to qualify. I did pretty well with this today. It's surprising how sometimes I just naturally do this junk, after reading about it and thinking about it and not even consciously thinking, ok, NOW I need to Qualify. Great stuff. I love my brain. Thank you, brain!

Peace out guys! And remember: Always go for it! Always! What do you have to lose other than your ego maybe taking a little hit, of which it is probably VERY deserving anyway?!?

I'm going to learn this game and become a master! I know I can do it. It won't be easy, but nothing worth gaining is. May God have mercy on my soul.

HA! Used an FTC and you fell for it! How does it feel to get played at your own game, huh? :-p. Ok, actually, it is short... So! Here's my question:

What stage do you need to be at in the set in DAYTIME in order to hold hands and/or even kiss?

I'm thinking to use some simple hand games for this... like thumb war or whatever... but then I might feel weird for holding on to her hand... so... maybe I can joke about her trying to hold onto my hand while I'M actually holding on to hers... then let it go, vibe a bit more and do a high five at a high point after the whole thumb war thing/whatever, and lock fingers and hold hands from there...

What do you guys think?

Today I did 5 approaches again. It was on the beach this time. Ah! The beautiful beach. I think this might be my new favorite place for picking up/talking to girls in the day time.

Speaking of daytime, I've pretty much been doing ONLY that... Which is going to be great for the DAYTIME... I hope this rubs off on other areas though of pick-up.

As far as results go, I got three numbers. Two from a 2 set, and 1 from another 2 set. It's not really that hard to get numbers for me. I don't always ask, but when I do, I almost never get turned down. Then again, you can't fuck phone numbers, so I don't really think of phone numbers as that promising anyways. My phone game will improve though!

Actually, as far as phone game goes, I'm not that bad. In fact, it's really easy for me. I get a great response every time with just being really relaxed and saying hey, then if they don't tell me, ask what they're doing RIGHT then and talk about THAT for a minute or so, so that you can connect with them and something cool I learned recently from Wygant: Go where her focus is first... then go from there. So, like, if she's in a dressing room trying on a pair of jeans, you want to know that so you don't end up trying to talk to her when she can't talk to you. So ask if the jeans make her ass look fat, and if she says no, tell her to get them. (I actually did that yesterday and she laughed, even though you MIGHT want to be careful with that. I tend to just say what pops in my head and find that it usually works... I mean, I wasn't telling her that her ass WAS fat... which is different).

Today I opened all 5 sets with "Hey! I'm here learning how to flirt, and you guys seem friendly, so I wanted to ask if you have any tips for me?" Except for the first set, which I never really count that much because I'm usually more nervous and not warmed up, even though I of course ALWAYS go for it, I got GREAT reactions.

The girls usually ignored the question, but after I played with them for a second, they started asking about me, and I was in. I just put in a FTC and sat down with them on the sand.

One thing I'm trying to work on is getting to the point where I can talk about what SHE is interested in. I need to do that more... then we can find common interests, and I can talk about my interests, and generally have a more interesting conversation, not to mention longer.

On my last set, they were both CRACKING up laughing at my opener and my jokes and stuff... and at one point one of them was saying "sorry" for laughing so much... I don't know exactly what that meant, but even if she was maybe laughing at me... I didn't take it personally... I really don't know what exactly was going on, I just smiled while she laughed and let her laugh. Maybe I should have told her jokingly that she should stop laughing... or something. I just feel like she wasn't laughing as a direct cause of something funny I was saying, but more because of something else. Or maybe NOT?! I mean, maybe I'm just not letting myself accept that I can be that funny. Because in the past, I've always been funny, people even tell me a lot that I am. And I can make pretty much anyone laugh. But I've never thought of myself as the person that makes people just CRACK up laughing. So maybe she saw that I wasn't used to it, or it wasn't exactly congruent with me, so that's why she was apologizing. ...interesting. If someone has thoughts on this, let me know.

Anyways, I got her number... I actually told them both to give me their numbers, but I'm not depending on this number, and this is why: When I handed the pad to her and she wrote her number, after she had ALREADY handed the pad to her friend, I told her to draw a picture of herself there too... and she thought I was serious. Basically, I miscalibrated the joke, by one, not telling her that right while she was still writing, and 2 since she didn't think it was a joke, (I should have just been more absurd with the delivery and explanation of it), it came across as me wanting more than her just giving me her number... so in her mind, she just gave something-her number- and then I asked for more, instead of giving first to ask for more... Or at least this is my crazy theory of it all). In any case, her friend drew a smiley face next to the first girl's number but handed the pad back after NOT writing her number down... Also, haha, maybe I should have given them a new sheet of paper, because the one I handed to them already had two numbers that I had just gotten. Maybe that made the second girl feel like she was really just an object, and not special, and that's why she didn't give me the number. I'm not certain that this is a big deal, but it might have contributed a little.

Gosh, it helps me to write my thoughts down! I just feel so much more organized and sorted about it after I do.

One last thing is that I approached my first set today with a Male in the group. I almost always avoid these, because I really just don't know how I should act around another male with girls, and if I should talk more to him or how much I should talk to him... I had a really bad experience once with that, but what I did was really stupid, so I'm not that scarred from it. Still... maybe I should do a LOT of these, and just take a little risk here, in order to figure that out. Because, as we know, many times it's not just a group of girls....

Also, I know I'm long-winded here, but on the one hand I don't give a crap because even though I welcome people to read this, this blog is, after all, mostly for myself to get my own thoughts organized. Even though, I'm sure anyone who follows this will get some great tips, and I'm not stingy, so feel free to use this stuff. Just make sure you tell all the girls after you deliver it that you learned it from someone else and you're not being genuine, but you wanted them to like you for the real you, so you thought they should know.

That last one was a joke, in case you didn't get it.

So! I need to make these shorter! I'm not getting paid here. ...not in money anyway.

Quick recap of theoretical lessons learned:

-Hey, I'm learning how to flirt, do you guys have any tips?" Is a great opener, so far. I'm gonna try it with a NEG afterward tomorrow and see what happens. If forgot about NEGS today.
-Try to use new pieces of paper for new sets. Even though it makes absolutely no difference to you, it makes THEM feel special. Or at least not LESS special, object-like/score-pad fodder.
-Approaching mixed sets is a new dynamic for me, and I should REALLY pay attention here, as well as experimenting and then not being too expectant of results.
-Of course, never be expectant of results. Just be and have FUN. (general rule I felt like re-writing).
-I like going for the number close, as this puts a little more pressure on, and I feel like I need to be moving forward more, so... going for the number close at least gives me more practice for that + if I don't get it... I know I screwed up. Problem with this is, I actually have OK calibration and usually don't ask for the phone number if I don't think I'll get it. Note to self: Always go for the fucking digits.
-Always go for the fucking digits. (I liked that phrase).

THINGS I want to try next time:
-A little more playing with KINO. I've got to do this, I'm just so used to not doing it that I usually forget about it, or get freaked out and don't. I've got to think about this more before the set, and make it one of my goals to work on for the day even/week/whatever.
-NEGs. Again, I just need to remind myself to use this shit.
-Approaching mixed sets. It's got to happen. I can see it coming. This is good stuff. I'll see what happens and learn.
-Insta-dates. ...this is in the back of my head, but I feel that it's coming to this point. I've got to remember to bring this up. Venue change. Venue Change, Venue change. ...HEY! I know if this AWESOME place where water spurts out of the earth on command. You have to come check it out! (It's a faucet).

Lastly, a question.... but I'll put it in my next post, because I want answers that might not show up here because this was so long.

I'm not playing around anymore.

Today I went out. I did three "actual" approaches... which, normally, I wouldn't excuse, but I also talked to at least 10 other chicks sort of hitting on them, so I let it go. Some people might have called that indirect game. Anyways, I'm satisfied.

I'm doing 5 approaches 5 days a week, at least. If I want to do more, cool. But I do at least 5.This is simply part of my lifestyle now. Sure, it freaks me out sometimes. But I'll get over that. I'm just going to learn, like any other skill.

Because to be a NATURAL, which is, my friends, the goal, is to constantly have women in your life and be able to meet them anywhere, anytime. And to NATURALLY have do this. In order for it to be natural, it has to be a habit. I'm going to make this my new habit. Our lives are, after all, the sum of our decisions, and all habits started out as decisions. That's why this will be easier once it's an actual habit. It'll take at least three weeks for this to feel normal, most likely. Maybe it won't ever, who knows.

But that won't defeat me. Nothing will, except God or death. I'm determined. I'm passionate. This is going to be tough. It's going to hurt. But that's ok, because unless it's hard I'm not growing. I'm growing when it's hard. In fact, I'm not satisfied if it's not hard. (That's what she said). ...I couldn't help myself.

This is exciting. My life is exciting. You know why? Because I choose to make it exciting. I do exciting things.

I was thinking yesterday: It's not really that complicated to be a MAN, with a FUN, EXCITING life. In fact, there are really only two steps. See opportunity, Take opportunity.

If you get rejected, my friends, you are THAT much closer! Just remember to pay attention to when things are working and learn from when they don't. Just go do something exciting and have a good time. Don't give a fuck if people think your a retard, just do what you know is right, don't compromise your own standards, and of course, don't approach the girl who's got a boyfriend holding a baseball bat. In most cases.

I asked a girl if she had e-mail today, haha! E-mail. The old, David D method. She said no. Maybe I could have waited it out... it seemed like she wanted me to go away, I don't know. Anyways, I probably should have kept ploughing until SHE walked away. Really... Idk. Anyways, my point is this. After I got blown out, and I didn't really react, other than my ego just getting hit a little, I think that other girls in the store were actually more attracted to me. It's weird. It's like, after they saw that I was real, and at least WENT for what I wanted, then I was cooler. I was already different than so many other guys who wouldn't even TRY. So actually, as usual, rejection ends up being a good thing. First of all, it teaches you that rejection isn't that bad. In fact, it is SO MUCH BETTER than not trying. Because personally, if I don't try, I feel WAAAAYYY worse than if I tried and got blown out.

And as a matter of fact, other than that, I didn't really get blown out in a bad way from any of the other girls. I guess. Maybe I'm still too much of a nice guy, and give them credit. But on the other hand, nah. Really, you have to give them credit. All these guys trying to figure out how to get in their pants coming up to nervously talk to them. Poor girls getting hit on by guys who are just trying to make their lives better and learn this SKILL! Haha. Yeah, well, I don't think they really understand about how hard it is, but still, they're almost always not assholes about it like guys would be if it was the reverse, you know? You have to say, it is true.

Well, if anyone actually, read all this, then congratulations. I don't know who will read all this, but this blog is mostly for me anyways. To help me organize my thoughts and to track my progress.

Find out what it is you want, Men. And then go after it like nothing in the world will stop you. Because if you have that attitude, then nothing WILL stop you.

Aaron