Developing YOUR OWN REAL OPENERS
Dec. 26, 2007 7:54 PM - [ post comment ]
Raise your hand if you're tired of the same old openers... Raise your hand if you hate the fact that dental floss and "did you see the fight?" kinda work.
Of course they work. Everything works, but we all know that by now. So why do we still use them from time to time.
First thing to consider is: When are these stock time tested openers necessary? The answer is: These openers were inventive and exciting when developed in the 90's, but just like Hooked on Phonics textbooks, the intention and use are timeless. Simply put, canned openers are wonderful tools for teaching AFC's how to approach a set. It came from Mystery's teaching that success breeds confidence. Success is achieved through competence. Competence is achieved through learning and studying theory. So there you have it. The theory is, "say something". Once you master that, we can move on.
Second thing to consider is: Why have so few people written about the next generation of openers? Answer: Easy. Because it didn't make a difference. Ask her what time it is, then tell her you don't care, you just wanted to flirt. Ask her what your friend should do because his girlfriend wants to burn a box of pictures. There are so many girls in the world they're never gonna hear this shit twice... right?
My friends we are no better in the early phases of the pick-up industry than Big Oil and other Big Industrial plants. We are polluting the ocean and soon the fish will evolve and adapt in a horrible Chernobyl-like manner. (did you get the many fish in the sea motif I got going?)
So lets pow-wow. First session of the Ad-Hoc committee on Making the PUA Industry more Green is in session. Meeting minutes: I. Understanding the problem. a. Opinion openers - Provide a non offensive way to engage a large group of people in conversation. They can show the PUA's ability to lead a conversation and allow for interjections, negs, multiple threading and targeting to seem effortless. PROBLEM: There are only so many ways to ask a groups opinion on a topic. Certain topics can be boring and instantly DLV. Girls are aware of the opinion opener thanks to VH1 b. Direct openers - Give PUAs a great way to flex their body language skills. Amazing tool for advanced calibration. The best way to open day game approaches. PROBLEM: Does not work well in group dynamics. Instant DLV in night game. c. Monotony - Girls have heard the canned material before. They are starting to group together to ward off PUAs the same way they protect themselves from Losers and Assholes. PUA's can handle "shit tests" (God I hate that term) but we can not protect ourselves from preemptive strike.
II. Solving the problem a. Know when to use canned openers. As discussed above, canned openers are designed for the learning process to take you to the next step so you can learn conversation theory. They are not for the intermediate or advanced user to rely on. Build a better foundation as you grow into a REAL PUA. b. Educate the women. Speak to girls about what pick up lines or openers they hear all the time. It will shock you to hear that most girls wont remember any good ones. They'll tell you the bad ones they've heard and will recognize the vintage MM openers. c. Create an environment that enables educational growth in the pick up community. Neil Strauss speaks of the true PUA lifestyle as one that breeds its own success not because of theory or practice but because it encourages a man to be the best person for himself alone. Our online society is too narrow minded given the wonderful tool that the internet is. d. Develop new opening styles. We all strive for that Buddhist like enlightenment we call achieving inner game. What some don't realize is that it is there in you before you realize it. Use it for your openers. Wear your personality on your sleeve. This alone will make you stand out more than any peacocking fool striving for proper frame control and I'm sure Von Markovika will agree with me on that one. III. Solutions. What we can do now. a. Develop your Opening Style b. Develop your own REAL openers c. Spread the word.
Minutes over.
Ok, lets discuss Section III. I'm sure its the most exciting part of this article so far. What is an Opening Style? Let's look past opinions, direct, questions, story openers etc... What is your style? Do you Approach a set cold walking away looking over your shoulder and interject with the NLP hand gestures to gather interest? If you answered yes then you are like the majority of newcomers to the community. Do you make eye contact from across the room while in conversation with another set, warm-up set or group of friends. Then follow up by opening her set with the above style? If so, you are among the majority of PUAs doing this for a while.
Now lets be creative. I'd like to point out some new styles to you. They've been around for ages. Watch some cool movies on a day three with a girl you'll be able to pick out two or three approach styles.
- The Peev. Go over to a girl in a group and correct something she's doing that bothers you. Put her drink on a coaster, ask her not to stick her pinky in the air when she sips her martini, "why are you doing the Drew Barrymore lip thing only when you talk to this friend and not the other". Follow it with, "I caught it out the side of my eye and it was bothering me. You know, one of those funky pet peevs that you can't just let go without saying something, but if you smile at me like that again, I may let you get away with it for tonight. Just tonight." ***note: important thing about The Peev: Do Not use until you have mastered the basics to opening. For a beginner it will take a lot of body language calibration. Also only use this when there is something that truly peevs you. Don't make up a peev that the girl is not doing. Develop your peevs with your friends, or with girls at a bar. Play the peev game. Point to someone in the bar and have your new HB friend pick out a mannerism that peevs them. Then let her pick someone etc...
- Shit Test - Mild. I think i'm stealing this from Juggler or one of the England PUGs. Open with a shit test. To be honest, an image of Carey Grant, Bing Crosby or Dean Martin rolls in my head when I think about the shit test opening style. The intention is to very sarcastically state what you want your ideal girl to be implying that who you are talking to is not that, but the girl knows that she has what it takes to be the one for you. This style opener begins with eye contact and frame control. IMAGE: hottie in a little black dress with a few friends around. You notice she has nice dark shoes, a bright red bag and pretty earrings on. "Hi, you wear that dress wonderfully but I do only go for girls that accessorize in contrast to their dress."
- Shit Test - Extra Spicy. I am definitely stealing this from Style's Annihilation DVD series when he had guest speakers Steve Piccus and Hypnotica. Steve said that when he sees a beautiful girl in a public place he goes up and tells her that he only dates Bi-Sexual or Bi-Curious women. The key here is Know What You Need To Have. Steve had MLTRs at that time. He knew that if he was attracted to a new girl she would need to be ok with his lifestyle. He didn't need to go out and game a girl to get her into bed. He had girlfriends waiting in the wings to play out sexual fantasies. Bottom Line, If you can accept failure, Shit Test - Extra Spicy. "You are gorgeous, would you consider yourself adventurous in bed?" "How well do you know yourself sexually?"
Ok, now something easy for the beginners.
- Conversation Style. This style is meant for short range set hopping. I like to use this style of opening because it is fun and easy. In conversation with one group, lead the conversation into another group. This is kinda like MM's set merging technique. I'll give a field example of Conversation Style opening. I was leading a conversation about "white guy dancing" then asked the girls what they do when a guy dancing with them pops wood. The girls laugh and tell stories about when this happened to them. One says "I pushed him, grabbed my friend's hand and ran to the bathroom". I called her out on this saying "You are horrible, we can't always control these things, and you're the one rubbing up on it in the first place". When her girlfriends start laughing and defending her, I (MM style) look over my shoulder and say to the next group, "if YOU'RE dancing with a guy you met at a bar and he pops a stiffy would you push him and run away?"
Ok gentlemen, I've gotta head out to meet some friends in the Lower East Side. Four of them are Sexy Psychology PhD's in town from Va, so maybe I'll have some feedback from them to post tonight.
I completely encourage you to help develop more opening styles. Discuss it with girls, make a game out of it.
Comments, Grammar and Spelling corrections are welcomed too...
Stick around for: - Opening Styles pt.II - Weeding out the bad ones (not all hot girls are hot) - The 30-second storytelling technique - Old Couples - Boyfriend theory - MLTR redefined - to DVH, or not to DHV? A stupid question. - The true PUA lifestyle - The next dimension of NLP - True friends - Show her you're attracted - Show her you're turned on - Piss him off
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