Lets talk about Body Language today.

I want you to make it your mission to understand this one simple concept: Your appearance to others is only 10% how you look.

Human beings have developed the ability to perceive. Let that soak in for a minute.

Google the definition of the word "perceive". "To become aware of through the senses"

Evolutionarily the human body needed to develop a way to immediately pass accurate judgment of an approaching stranger. Without this ability humans would have been susceptible to wrong doers or  simply live in fear of strangers. Survival instinct created a complex chemical process for perception.

You are perceived by another person before you approach. Ever get that feeling someone is looking at you or looking over your shoulder. Ever wonder why you can look across a crowded room at another person and they will look back as if they knew you were looking at them? The brain has an amazing way of capturing and utilizing information that you are not consciously aware of. The cool part is that your brain will involuntarily cause your body to physically react to this sub-conscious information.

It has been scientifically proven that socially charged emotions [for example: the creeps, anticipation, excitement, disgust, anxiety] have significant physiological signs. Some psychologists even speculate that you become aware of these emotions only after recognizing that your body has already reacted to it. Goosebumps, the chills, shaking and itching are all warning signs that you are feeling some emotion. Next time it happens to you stop and think if you pinpointed your emotional state before or after your body reacted. The most common example of this is Fight or Flight: A physical reaction to an event that the conscious mind cannot process quickly enough. Evolution has saved our ass.

Take this and narrow it down to a controlled event. For our purposes lets discuss the Body Chemistry of a girl about to be approached by a man in a social environment. Her body has become instantly accustomed to the status quo of the bar as soon as she settles into a stationary position for a short period of time. Aurally her brain has become accustomed to and can recognize changes in the acoustics when people around her move. Her Skin can sense slight temperature changes from people drawing close or moving away. Her Eyes are absorbing light information and her sub-conscious is recording visual information that may prove vital for survival (I like to compare this ability to driving a car and being aware of your surroundings without directly looking around). Her nose is sensing the breath of people talking to her as well as other fragrances in the air. Let's not forget the ability to sense pheromones. Her brain is absorbing all this information and causing her body to involuntarily react and can send more lucid physiological cues if necessary (such as in Fight or Flight).

All this high level perception is going on and you think your tiny muster of courage to facade a shy AFC will fool her into believing you are the Casanova that will sweep her off her feet?

Body Language is the physiological reaction to your psychological state. It can never be anything else.

Now, just as our bodies have the ability to perceive environment they also have the ability to perceive the physical cues of another person. Just as our bodies react physically to our environment before we comprehend our psychological state, the same is true when approached by a stranger.

This is why Body Language is so important to becoming a PUA.

A woman will tell you she can know if she is attracted to a guy in the first 30 seconds of meeting him. The funny part is that her brain and body knew she was attracted WAY before she consciously realized.

The lesson today is designed to help you understand what Body Language is. Body Language lesson #2 will focus on controlling your Body Language (a.k.a. Frame Control)