Verbal Communication for Attraction Homeostasis will be finished and posted in about 2 weeks. Here is a quick preview of what's to come.

I will also be posting Body Language pt.2 in a few days.
Thanks for the support and questions.

An E-mail from a friend in the community about Chemistry or Death... I responded:

Q1: does that mean, more banter in attraction?

Lets get the terminology correct first.
Banter is a tool. The classic definition of banter is: A light colloquial conversation. Technological and urban development has brought about a need to further classify human interaction because more people live in a society with daily interchange.

Attraction - according to Mystery is a three part Stage that beings with the opener and moves into banter leading to isolated conversation and light rapport. According to ME, attraction is not a Stage but a phase. The difference is that the brain and body become attracted before the conscious mind understands. However since the conscious mind has the ability to control the subconscious we need to increase our ability to build empathy with a person to maintain the attraction phase until their feelings are realized.

For our purposes let's define Banter as: A light form of teasing under mutual pretext to attraction. (look up the literal meaning of pretext to better understand this definition)

In many pick-up methods the use of banter as a tool is to create an atmosphere of familiarity. Friends often banter with each other. They tease without the intent to harm. Conversely when our true friends and family roast us it is to show adoration and ardor. Mimicking this style of interaction with someone you just met will simulate a closer, more personal relationship leading to rapport. Banter can also be used to interlace sexual undertones. Improper or excessive use will create ill feelings or distrust.

Attraction occurs before banter begins. Banter is used to stimulate attraction and if empathy manifests creates an aura I like to call Chemistry. Building chemistry can not be expedited by generally increasing banter. Banter will help increase an understanding of personality. Understanding of personality will guide and stimulate conversation. This process will maintain attraction and lead to the realization of Chemistry.


Q2: (does that mean) more connection in comfort?

Comfort is another word used by Mystery to describe a three part Stage that occurs after Attraction. It consists of rapport, isolation and deep rapport.
While MM's technique breaking down pick-up into Stages and subdivided into steps works well as a method of understanding the common patterns of interaction, it does not properly explain the psychological effects of such events.

Comfort is: "a state of ease and satisfaction of bodily wants". According to my theory mutual comfort begins before the approach is consciously registered. Discomfort is created by approach, therefore the goal must be to maintain mutual homeostasis.

Connection is a loaded word. I connect with my boss, my friend's dog, my parents, some of my friends, but I am not attracted to them sexually. There will be a connection with any successful interaction. There HAS to be a connection of some sort for sexual attraction. Being aware of and guiding the direction of of that connection should be your goal as a charismatic being.

Thanks for the questions. I hope this clarifies the terms and definitions I like to use.